Marriage is the beginning—the beginning of the family—and is a life-long commitment. It also provides an opportunity to grow.
Before we're getting married. We must discuss a lot of things with our partner
For me, there is 3 points to know before marriage :
1. Be aware of expectations
Some people probably want a lot from just one person: A companion, a passionate lover, good parent and more. But we must aware that nothing is perfect.
Some people probably want a lot from just one person: A companion, a passionate lover, good parent and more. But we must aware that nothing is perfect.
Jadi gue ga ga terlalu over expectations sama pasangan gue, harus ini itu. Karena kalo gue over expectations, it's not good for me.
Tapi, yang terpenting bagi gue, gue dan pasangan gue bisa menciptakan healthy communication, memahami each others, have a same vision, support each others to be a better person and harmonize our mindset.
Tapi, yang terpenting bagi gue, gue dan pasangan gue bisa menciptakan healthy communication, memahami each others, have a same vision, support each others to be a better person and harmonize our mindset.
2. Know our partner's financial
Finances are where the mistrust and issues can surface. Money can be such a touchy topic that for some couples, talking about it can be more uncomfortable than discussing sex.
Benar adanya, kalo talk about financial kadang touchy banget (for some couples) but bagi gue it must communicate. Bukan soal besar atau kecil money yg dihasilkan oleh pasangan gue, tapi gue perlu tau spending apa yg dia keluarin and how does my partner manage his income.
Karena gue sadar if we get married, financial stress is inevitable. It means, some couples will feel that.
So, if financial stress is happened to me and my partner, We have option to restore and maintain. There is increase our capabilities. What is the meaning of increase capabilities? For me, meaning of increase capabilities itu, (It's for ibu rumah tangga yang berpenghasilan) bagaimana kita meningkatkan / mengasah skill kita biar kita punya value lebih di suatu company or when we're to be an entrepreneur.
Selain itu, meaning of increase capabilities itu, kita harus cerdas dalam me-manage income dari suami. Misal suami ngasih income X, gimana cara nya kita me-manage income dari suami jadi X+Y tapi we stay at home.
It's nothing impossible. We able to be like that if we try to be like that. Jadi singkatnya increase capabilities yang gue maksud
•Meningkatkan kemampuan skill teknis/non teknis dalam diri kita
•Meningkatkan kemampuan diri dalam mengendalikan income, bukan income yang mengendalikan diri kita.
Benar adanya, kalo talk about financial kadang touchy banget (for some couples) but bagi gue it must communicate. Bukan soal besar atau kecil money yg dihasilkan oleh pasangan gue, tapi gue perlu tau spending apa yg dia keluarin and how does my partner manage his income.
Karena gue sadar if we get married, financial stress is inevitable. It means, some couples will feel that.
So, if financial stress is happened to me and my partner, We have option to restore and maintain. There is increase our capabilities. What is the meaning of increase capabilities? For me, meaning of increase capabilities itu, (It's for ibu rumah tangga yang berpenghasilan) bagaimana kita meningkatkan / mengasah skill kita biar kita punya value lebih di suatu company or when we're to be an entrepreneur.
Selain itu, meaning of increase capabilities itu, kita harus cerdas dalam me-manage income dari suami. Misal suami ngasih income X, gimana cara nya kita me-manage income dari suami jadi X+Y tapi we stay at home.
It's nothing impossible. We able to be like that if we try to be like that. Jadi singkatnya increase capabilities yang gue maksud
•Meningkatkan kemampuan skill teknis/non teknis dalam diri kita
•Meningkatkan kemampuan diri dalam mengendalikan income, bukan income yang mengendalikan diri kita.
3. Conflict is inevitable
it’s about knowing how to come together and communicate. Some people are very quick to respond and react, but what you need to do is stop, be present and listen.
So, before marriage. We must discuss about something that can be potential conflict. Such as about past, habits or anything. (What? Past? Past is past. It's not related with future. It's for me. But kadang bagi sebagian orang the past bisa jadi problem).
So, discuss & communicate everything with your partner before you're getting married.
it’s about knowing how to come together and communicate. Some people are very quick to respond and react, but what you need to do is stop, be present and listen.
So, before marriage. We must discuss about something that can be potential conflict. Such as about past, habits or anything. (What? Past? Past is past. It's not related with future. It's for me. But kadang bagi sebagian orang the past bisa jadi problem).
So, discuss & communicate everything with your partner before you're getting married.